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Stop Torturing Yourself!

March 11, 2010

Anyone who reads this blog knows I am so not a DIY person.

My DIY projects tend to look … well, like a DIY. Actually, my projects look like a 5 year-old did it and not in a cute only-a-mother-could love cute.

At first, I was really stressing. What the heck is wrong with me? Am I lacking a gene here? I look at gorgeous pretty weddings and their thoughtful details and caught a serious wedding envy bug. Why can’t my wedding look like that? Why can’t I have screen-printed napkins? Why can’t I have gocco-ed stationary? Never mind that I had to Google what gocco was and I still don’t know what the deal is with a Cricut.

So I tried to DIY for the first time since I was a kid in Vacation Bible School with foam Jesuses. Except this is not project my mother is only going to see, stick up on the refrigerator for a couple of months and then throw in the bin. My nearest and dearest are all going to be there. I want them to have deco wrapped matchboxes. I want a cute guestbook that they will talk about for weddings to come.

Well, no one mentioned my matchboxes. “They were wrapped?” or “Oh, we just used the strikers”. I never did get around to the guestbook. You hear it over and over again: no one will notice your details and I don’t know about the other weddings but it was true for my wedding. I had a gorgeous handmade (not by me) cake topper and no one mentioned it.

So, my conclusion is if you love to DIY, great! More power to you. Make your bouquets out of paper flowers and vintage brooches, screen print all your out-of-town bags, make your favors from scratch. The rest of y’all who are just like me? Just say, “to heck with it all”, make yourself a martini and go shop on Etsy. It’s far less stressful. If you DIY make sure you are crafting because you love to craft. You love creating. Not because of how you want people to perceive your wedding and not because you think they will add a little something (even though you really do 😉 ). 

There are things people are good at. Personally, I think I have a great eye for design. I throw a great party. I can bargain hunt with the rest of them. However, I cannot cut in a straight line and my drawings are stick figures (and that is if you are lucky). Learn what I did not: at the end of the day, no one cares. No one is going to come away thinking “Man, I love those escort cards, I cannot believe she made them herself”. They are (hopefully) going to think, “Man, that was a rocking party. I had so much fun and the bride and groom look so much in love. I want that!”

Stop torturing yourself and have some fun shopping.


… Oh and unless you are a true DIY-er, you don’t really save that much money. I have done the math, trust me.

 Picture of adorable handmade brooch bouquet that I will never accomplish credited to Lisa


13 Comments leave one →
  1. March 11, 2010 12:59 am

    Yeahhhhh. I’m the kind of person who loves a good bargain, but if something stresses me out I’ll just pay for convenience.

    I’m going to try to do our flowers and centrepieces for the Aussie wedding, though. Because florists are EXPENSIVE.

  2. March 11, 2010 4:00 am

    Happy to try diy but I’m pretty sure that if things go wrong I will be even happier to throw a bit of cash at the situation!

  3. March 11, 2010 6:53 am

    True. That stupid sign I made the other day cost me $7 in materials.

  4. March 11, 2010 6:58 am

    He he… I can’t cut in a straight line either! I do love DIY but I tend to be the ideas and then the OH (or my sis) does all the actual diy-ing for me! I blame my Home Economics teacher for my lack of sewing ability 😉

  5. March 11, 2010 7:23 am

    I was a little nervous at first when I saw the title of this post then i picture of something I made :). I do love being creative and making things but a big chunk of it is being practical with money too. My mom actually called me last night and said “thanks for making everything from scratch for your wedding, you could really be a brideszilla and ask for tons of money from me but you don’t and i know you would want em to be happy and buy stuff for myself” what I wanted to say was “hey give me some $$$!!!’ . regardless, iam enjoying making things even though they super stress me out too

  6. March 11, 2010 7:35 am

    this is my first time on your blog & i LOVE this post. LOVE. hilarious. & i totally agree. i really like the IDEA of crafting but i always get frustrated and huffy (probably because i’m horrible at it) when i actually go to do it. and when it comes to weddings i think details get lost too. THIS POST IS SOUND ADVICE BRIDES-TO-BE! plan something that you’ll love and don’t worry about what other people will be thinking…they just want to celebrate with you!

  7. March 11, 2010 7:37 am

    Dude, you are so right! I do love my DIY, but there are some things that I am happy to accept defeat in. I think it’s just about choosing a few things you care about and investing your energies in those area. And of course, admitting that probably no one except your photographer will notice. 🙂

  8. pobadmin permalink
    March 11, 2010 11:56 am

    I picked a few things to DIY that I knew would save us boatloads of money and we ran with it….and really, really enjoyed it. I learned so much. I think if are really choosy about what you DIY (to preserve sanity) then you’re in the clear. I honestly thought about sewing over 300 napkins…how loony tunes was that! Oh and making tiramisu layer cakes for all 36 centerpieces…good God, what was I thinking! Luckily my senses returned to me and I did the bouquets and overlays and that is plenty for me.

  9. March 11, 2010 3:15 pm

    Girl, I love your vibe. Your posts always put it all into perspective. I’m going to try a little DIY, but keep it real – aka try some projects for fun, not the big day, ha.

  10. March 11, 2010 10:16 pm

    So so true.

  11. March 12, 2010 9:06 am

    sometimes the diy is so not worth it.

  12. March 15, 2010 12:19 pm

    LOVE this! Like, LOVE it. Because this is what I think all the time about this wedding stuff. Except, I am quite crafty, and I enjoy making things…but I’m not willing to spend allllll of my own precious time leading up to the wedding being a slave to the wedding beautification process. Nope. I have too much fun to go out and have.

  13. March 21, 2010 7:16 am

    SO SO TRUE! I think some Brides put wayyy too much into these small details when really, no one cares. I love to DIY myself, but don’t spend hours/days/weeks making favors or programs (etc) if you don’t love it. You will be sad to see these items tossed around and put aside at the wedding. If you must DIY, put the effort into centerpieces and larger decor that will be used throughout the wedding and reception and be more noticeable. Thanks for your post, love your blog!

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