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Asian Weddings Vs American Weddings

March 22, 2010
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Asian Wedding: Large Quantities of Alcohol. They actually encourage you to get drunk by an Asian toasting tradition whereby you have to go around to each table and toast with each one. My chinese reception had 6 tables. My parent’s had 30. Yah. Thank all that is good and kind in the world that we didn’t marry in Malaysia. Cory would have been very drunk and I would have died of alcohol poisoning.

American Wedding: Alcohol is expensive so you have limited quantities.  Wine and beer if you can afford it, cash bar if you can’t, and no bar if you think that is tacky. Groom is highly discouraged from getting drunk in case it interferes with his performance. At the wedding … and after.

Asian Wedding: It is severely rude to not feed your guests. Feeding meaning a full 8 course meal. If you neglect to feed them this indicates you are cheap bastard and you are a horrible host. And you get to hear from your friends how awful the wedding was because there was no food. You want to encourage your guests’ good will because their wedding gifts are in the form of money.

American Wedding: Food is expensive too. So you just serve hor devours, or you have a desserts only reception, or you take out a bank loan to feed your guests. Aside from posting up pretty detail pictures, and wanting people to talk about your wedding for weddings to come, or wanting to appear like a good host, there really is not big incentive to feed your guest.

Asian Wedding: Entertainment comes in the form of the bride and groom themselves. There will be a slideshow of the bride and groom from baby till present time. Anything less than 300 photos is simply not acceptable. Not having a slideshow is also not acceptable. What else are your guests going to do between courses? Heaven forbid they should have to make conversation. Bride and Groom also go through “wedding games”. Back in the old days (where arrange marriages was the norm), it is not unusual for the bride and groom to meet only at their wedding. The guests help them out by making them play all sorts of suggestive, humilating games so they can get acquainted quickily. If you are really lucky, the groom might dedicate a song to his new bride. And sing it himself. Now, imagine this after copious amounts of alcohol.

American Wedding: Entertainment comes in the form of watching the groom’s grandmother dance with the bride’s grand-uncle. Or having your bridesmaids drag out the bride’s very embaressed father out on to the dance floor. This is where alcohol would also come in handy, unless you are brok then you just have to pray the DJ is really good or your friends are party animals. Points if you have both.


 Which one would you rather attend?

5 Comments leave one →
  1. Jessica permalink
    March 22, 2010 8:07 pm

    Something in between would be nice.
    I am from Malaysia, and thank god I am not having the Chinese wedding dinner but a small (80-100 pax) reception instead. But I am also afraid that no one will enjoy it, so I made the best men pledge to drink as much as they can (sorry if they gonna have alcohol poisoning) and we can have some entertainment watching them. tee hee hee.

  2. March 22, 2010 8:21 pm

    I totally want to go to the Asian wedding – sounds really different. Love me some different. Mmmm eight courses!

  3. March 23, 2010 9:29 am

    Asian! But I am not having one, though I enjoy them, because the New York asian restaurants are not our style. If I was getting married in the Bay Area though, where the restaurants are much better, I might have.

  4. March 28, 2010 10:28 pm

    I love attending both! Although I don’t really want to have a typical Asian wedding for ours… so far it looks like we’ll have to do the inviting many many relatives, versions of the stationery in Chinese, toasting with each table and large amounts of food. I’m putting my foot down on the Chinese banquet though, just not really what I want!

  5. Kelsey permalink
    October 12, 2010 10:46 am

    Luckily for me, I’m having a combination of both. I’m Taidam and my boyfriend is…Caucasion? Is that politically correct? I have warned him about the alcohol. This is going to be great:)

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