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In Defense Of A 4-digit Gown

May 19, 2010

I spent a lot of moo-lah on my wedding dress it is true. It is also true I did not put the price on the “spent so far” page because I am super embaressed by the number. Also, because I thought it would diminish my credibility as a budget bride wedding blogger. So I just put XXXX. Like an intro to a porno film. It says, “You might think you want to see what is under these Xs but you really don’t. No, not really”. The Xs say “this number is scandalous and will cause all kinds of outrage”.

 Why are we so hypocritical about what other people spend their money on? After reading the millionth article on how to find a budget wedding dress (Which I have stopped writing about a long time ago because honestly, it’s kind of common sense isn’t it?), I just kind of flipped after the intro of “why would you spend so much money on a dress that you will only wear for one day?”.

Let me tell you why someone would drop a four digit money on a price tag. Because there is no price tag on the way you feel. I personally would have had a 7 person wedding if it meant a fabulous wedding dress. Now I know this is not everyone. My best friend Marissa could not be arse if she were wearing David’s Bridal or Monique Lhullier. She was, however, very impressed that I bought my very beautiful dress secondhand online (but then again, I never did tell her how much exactly I paid for it). My two thousand wedding dress was worth every penny. I smile when I see my pictures because I look amazing. That day, I felt amazing. That kind of feeling, radiates to everyone in your party.

Is there another dress in this world that cost less than two thousand dollars that would have made me feel equally awesome? Probably. I didn’t find one. If I found one that was five hundred dollars that makes me feel good, I would have bought it. With more excitement because I am not spending the equavalent of 20% of my wedding budget. I am tired of people guilt tripping brides who want to spend money on their wedding gown. They are no different from brides who want to spend money on great wedding dinner because the couple are huge foodies. No different from those who want to spend a couple of grand on wedding photography because they love beautiful images and they hope that the photos will help them remember their wedding day better. No different from a girl who wants to wear Christian Louboutins but a white mall dress. We all have different priorities. No priority is “better” than the other. They are just different. I would, however, recommend working within your budget. So, no taking out a bank loan to get the dress from the Vera Wang Luxe Collection. I know, sucks, huh?

I say, buy a Monique Lhuillier dress if it is important to you and it can be worked within your budget and to heck with every other person out there who wants to judge you for spending money on something you love. Even if it is just for a day.



Picture from Brides, wedding dress from Ines Di Santo

4 Comments leave one →
  1. May 19, 2010 5:55 pm

    I love that you posted about this. There is some sort of stigma attached to us “normal” brides to spend around the $500 dollar mark to be credible or something.

    I’m glad you got “THE” dress.

  2. May 20, 2010 7:21 am

    I think this post is spot-on. The point is not to spend as little money as possible, the point is to spend a comfortable amount of money on what is important to you – and little no money on things that are NOT important to you.

    I think you are right when you say that (after the whole love thing) no priority is better or worse than another. Thanks for this post!

  3. May 21, 2010 7:41 am

    I really agree with this post, in part because I ended up not being in love with my dress (I liked it but didn’t love it), and I think it might have been worth spending a little more money to get a dress that really made me feel special.

    Like Kerry said, the point isn’t to spend as little as possible, the point is to be comfortable with what you’re spending. No bank loans for the Vera Wang, but if the dress is important to you, it’s OK to make that a budget priority.

  4. May 21, 2010 8:33 am

    I do question what I am spending on my dress, but along similar lines I am getting what I want and I am getting a locally designed and made dress as well! Hopefully I will be like you and look and feel amazing.

    I did not really shop around, I tried on dresses at the shops of three local designers (none of them bridal shops!) and found the dress I wanted.

    It does cross my mind that I could have spent more time looking and found something cheaper.

    At what point though do you stop and question the amount of time you spend searching and the obsession with finding something that is the “right price”.

    When I put a budget together I decided that I wanted to spend up to $2000 on my whole outfit. I cracked that when I ordered my dress (and matching bolero) and have left myself with $120 in the budget to buy underwear, shoes and hair accessory!

    Thank you for making me think about it, and also for reassuring me that I am not crazy!

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